Thursday, 20 October 2011


Lately, my three year old has become rather obsessed with death. Thankfully, there's no immediate catalyst for this, so Im putting it down to a 'Developmental Stage' - along with his desire to be naked whenever possible - and hoping itll pass. Please feel free to reassure me...

Trouble is, I'm finding it quite a difficult one to manage, especially publicly. And Im not quite sure of any of the right answers ('Will Great Grandma be staying in heaven overnight mummy?' 'Ummm....'). On a recent walk to his nursery, I asked after one of the staff I hadnt seen much of lately. 'Wheres Melissa at the moment? I said, 'I havent seen her for ages. Casually, whilst taking on a particularly bumpy part of pavement with his scooter, he replied, 'Oh, she just, erdied.

Now, had this been the case, Im fairly sure that nursery parents would have been pulled aside to be informed, or at the very least it would have made the monthly newsletter. So this little gem of twisted fiction is merely a product of (what I thought was) his pure, angelic mind. Shit. Should I worry? Is it normal? Should I just have another glass of wine...?

The thing is, because abstract concepts are so difficult to convey to this age, The Husband and I have come up with some slightly more fluffy explanations than Six Feet Under. So perhaps wrongly, when our children lost their Great Grandma earlier this year, we said she'd gone to live in the clouds along with their other Great Grandparents. Our son thinks this is rather fantastic. I think he genuinely believes we might pass them next time were on an Easyjet flight and see them all joyfully having a tea party somewhere above The Alps.

The positive thing (I think?!) is that it’s not something he is frightened of, or truly understands. It’s just another concept to explore and be interested in. The macabre fascination continues through to stories and pictures. Yesterday he and a friend were drawing at the table. Sweet. I went over to look. 'Thats a nice picture', I said to my son, noticing a tall tree and something that resembled a duck. The tree is about to fall over and squash the duck he said proudly. OkaaaaaaayWondering if I might have more luck with his friend, I commented, 'Wow - that's good, is it a sheep? No, its a dead dog came the reply. Oh, isnt he asleep? No, hes dead'. Right...

Well, at least I can rest in peace in the knowledge that hes not alone. So for now, I WILL have that glass of wine. And perhaps start saving for therapy, just in case.

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